diff --git a/pkg/common/db/newmgo/friend_request.go b/pkg/common/db/newmgo/friend_request.go
index e7a45ecb4..3f8a2ce9a 100644
--- a/pkg/common/db/newmgo/friend_request.go
+++ b/pkg/common/db/newmgo/friend_request.go
@@ -52,7 +52,30 @@ func (f *FriendRequestMgo) UpdateByMap(ctx context.Context, formUserID, toUserID
 }
 
 func (f *FriendRequestMgo) Update(ctx context.Context, friendRequest *relation.FriendRequestModel) (err error) {
-	return mgotool.UpdateOne(ctx, f.coll, bson.M{"_id": friendRequest.ID}, bson.M{"$set": friendRequest}, true)
+	updater := bson.M{}
+	if friendRequest.HandleResult != 0 {
+		updater["handle_result"] = friendRequest.HandleResult
+	}
+	if friendRequest.ReqMsg != "" {
+		updater["req_msg"] = friendRequest.ReqMsg
+	}
+	if friendRequest.HandlerUserID != "" {
+		updater["handler_user_id"] = friendRequest.HandlerUserID
+	}
+	if friendRequest.HandleMsg != "" {
+		updater["handle_msg"] = friendRequest.HandleMsg
+	}
+	if !friendRequest.HandleTime.IsZero() {
+		updater["handle_time"] = friendRequest.HandleTime
+	}
+	if friendRequest.Ex != "" {
+		updater["ex"] = friendRequest.Ex
+	}
+	if len(updater) == 0 {
+		return nil
+	}
+	filter := bson.M{"from_user_id": friendRequest.FromUserID, "to_user_id": friendRequest.ToUserID}
+	return mgotool.UpdateOne(ctx, f.coll, filter, bson.M{"$set": updater}, true)
 }
 
 func (f *FriendRequestMgo) Find(ctx context.Context, fromUserID, toUserID string) (friendRequest *relation.FriendRequestModel, err error) {
diff --git a/pkg/common/db/table/relation/friend_request.go b/pkg/common/db/table/relation/friend_request.go
index 40e02c9e1..b082e63f1 100644
--- a/pkg/common/db/table/relation/friend_request.go
+++ b/pkg/common/db/table/relation/friend_request.go
@@ -18,21 +18,18 @@ import (
 	"context"
 	"github.com/openimsdk/open-im-server/v3/pkg/common/pagination"
 	"time"
-
-	"go.mongodb.org/mongo-driver/bson/primitive"
 )
 
 type FriendRequestModel struct {
-	ID            primitive.ObjectID `bson:"_id,omitempty"`
-	FromUserID    string             `bson:"from_user_id"`
-	ToUserID      string             `bson:"to_user_id"`
-	HandleResult  int32              `bson:"handle_result"`
-	ReqMsg        string             `bson:"req_msg"`
-	CreateTime    time.Time          `bson:"create_time"`
-	HandlerUserID string             `bson:"handler_user_id"`
-	HandleMsg     string             `bson:"handle_msg"`
-	HandleTime    time.Time          `bson:"handle_time"`
-	Ex            string             `bson:"ex"`
+	FromUserID    string    `bson:"from_user_id"`
+	ToUserID      string    `bson:"to_user_id"`
+	HandleResult  int32     `bson:"handle_result"`
+	ReqMsg        string    `bson:"req_msg"`
+	CreateTime    time.Time `bson:"create_time"`
+	HandlerUserID string    `bson:"handler_user_id"`
+	HandleMsg     string    `bson:"handle_msg"`
+	HandleTime    time.Time `bson:"handle_time"`
+	Ex            string    `bson:"ex"`
 }
 
 type FriendRequestModelInterface interface {